Well guys, I'm officially single.

After over a month of being generally disregarded by my significant other, and even longer of some form of alienation, it's come to a long and bitter end.

She wants to be friends because she values our friendship. I'm disgruntled about our give and take relationship being mine and her roles respectively.

Some may remember the fight in the beginning, then the middle. Well, this is the end. Not talking to her for quite some time.

Icing on the cake, I helped her through 3 major health related issues, being at her bedside for everything she could possibly need (even the gross stuff), I was in the ER Monday night for stomach related nastiness that leaves experts believing I may have appendicitis, but definitely at least an intestinal virus, leaving my stomach in pain. She stopped by, had a walk, broke up on said walk, now I'm here for my parents to torment.

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Yeah, things suck. Oh, while on the subject (being Emu and all), though one of my closest friends passed away earlier this year, two are moving away, and my last closest friend in the area tries to sleep with every girl I talk to, even girlfriends, and he lives with his own girlfriend, smokes weed all the time, and has some aspirations for a promotion at his current job. Basically, nothing too long term.

Basically alone in one month and counting.

Not to say you guys aren't here, which surprisingly helps a lot. Thanks guys. Kept me going, honestly, and literally. Be proud of yourselves, you've done something worth it.

Thanks again for your open ears and minds.

Crumps, I think a change of pace might be good for you. Move around, once you get better. Gotta get out of that town. Sorry to hear things aren't going too well.

One of my oldest friends got kicked outta his mom's for telling her he blazes. Lives with his dad now. Haven't said more than a friendly hello to him in more than 3 years, but still... what an idiot! This guy literally was my best friend in elementary school. Funny how people change.

Sorry to her about that crumpets. I do hope you get better and that things turn around for you.

Crumpets,

Seeing as I recently had my heart stomped on, I feel where you're coming from Crumpets. All we can really do is tell ourselves that we're better off. Miss Right will come along someday. Because if this woman couldn't see what an awesome sauce guy, then foo on her.

Life is some pretty hard stuff. We just need to remember that there's people out there who give a damn for us, whether they're online or in person.

You're swell.

Thanks, and I found out I didn't get a job I really needed right after she dumped me. At least I'm almost healthy enough to go outside again.

It seems as though everything goes wrong at the same time right?

I was once given a very wise knowledge, though he who told me it unfortunately did not follow it. But, I take this to heart.

"Everything's fine in the end. If it's not fine, it's not the end."

You'll pull through Crumpets. I have faith in you.

Unfortunately, I studied history, and have developed the "empire" philosophy. "Empires rise and fall, but an idea lives on."

And like your significant other, mine also wants to be friends. Which I don't do. Not now, not anymore. She's texted me a bit, but I haven't responded. It's mean because I said we'd be friends, but the not so fine print was that we would be friends when I'm ready. I'm sure she didn't hear that even though I said it twice.

There are givers and takers in relationships. I'm a giver usually unless I meet someone who is well balanced then the relationship is balanced (including friends). She's a taker, and doesn't even see it most of the time even though she admits to it off hand. So... You could imagine how the relationship was.

And you remember what it was like in the beginning. Even in March when we met, and I met you the same time. Yeah.

Difference between you and I is that I don't want to get back together with her. Not for a long time at least. Even if she came running back, still would be no. Just bitter again.

I wonder who told you that quote? I remember that on this board a while back. I've heard it around for a while though, but especially this board. Either way. That's voluntary. It CAN be the end if we want it to, so might as well wait until everything is fine.

Oh, and "awesome sauce guy" she said I was. Am. And the best a boyfriend a girl could ask for. Most of my exes say that. They don't realize it's because I try. Really hard. I keep the balance. Not too nice, not too stern. Keep the pendulum swinging so they get what they NEED when they need it, and they notice that, for some reason, the relationship was the best they had.

Ranting now... But thanks comix, you're swell too. Your guy was lucky to have you even the short time he did, and I hope he comes to his senses, or you to yours. No offense

While we're here, I found this interesting. I love Rammstein, for a long time now, and this song was well done, as well as the entire album. If you speak German, then you get why it's in this thread. If not, then you're lucky.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YBcu8YWs7uM

Crumpets,

Yeah, I realized that I wasn't quite ready for the friend thing yet. I talked to the Mister, and he said he understood. He's a good friend, which makes it really damned hard.

I remember I didn't much like your former girl. It seemed like you were putting way more work in than she was. In the long run, you're probably better off Crumpets.

I naturally want to be with the guy I most stupidly fell in love with, but I really doubt it would ever work. Firstly, he no longer feels that way about me, but secondly, I don't know if I could trust him ever again. I would always think that any false move would lead to a break up and that is not a healthy relationship.

I don't know. The more I think about it, the more I honestly think that I might be better off as a single being. Dating requires trust I am no longer willing to give. If break ups make me feel this awful, I really don't know if the idea of love is worth it, if it is not guaranteed permanence, which love never does.

Then there's the whole soul mate debate. Is it possible that some people are destined to be singular beings? Something makes me feel as though I must have a degree of separation from others. Seeing as they only person I did not seem to have this separation from has caused be immense pain, I am beginning to be of the opinion that dating is not worth the time for me. It always seems to turn out badly, and history has a tendency to repeat itself.

The quote was originally told to me by my old boyfriend Pete,who used to frequent this forum. He never told me where he learned it, but it has always been important to me.

I wouldn't really say the fellow was lucky. I have a tendency to cause your gender unhappiness. Never seem to be quite good enough.

But I'm always good enough for myself I guess...

Well, I think the soulmate thing is ridiculous. China anyone? Basically, if you click with someone, and you are compatible in many aspects, then a relationship is the next NATURAL step. All relationships require work, all of them, whether it's with friends or family or someone you love. Patience gets you pretty far too.

My recent ex would say what you said. That she believes she's meant to be single. After two months of dating she wanted to marry me :\

I bet you'd do well in a relationship where the guy was more patient with you, if you're patient enough already. History only repeats itself to those who don't remember it. Remember what went wrong, and avoid it, deter it, defeat it. I've learned from everyone around me, and as such have learned how to deal with people. Soooo... I guess I was just tired of dealing with it.

There's more time to date comix, you'll find someone you enjoy being with.

But I dunno if I WANT to.

Of course you don't know if you WANT to or not. It's more of circumstance. I never go out anywhere with the intention of picking up numbers. Well. I do, but those nights fail harder than Napoleon in Russia. Basically, if you meet someone, don't fight it.

And a gift for you!

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I don't go out looking for numbers actually. I seem to attract a small orbit of very timid males unintentionally. With the exception of he who dumped me, who was most certainly not timid.

Oh well. I am a patient person. Until someone pesters me to make a move, I'll mosey about the Lon Lon Ranch of the Universe. XD

I get the exact opposite of females. All tenacious, all aggressive. Well, if you can wait it out, then all the better ah spose.

I don't tend to meet anyone unless I try. Stupid internet...

Don't curse the internet! It brings us wonderful things! Like...Lawlrus! And....Porn?

Well...I don't think that's THAT wonderful...but some folks do! ^_^'''